In a recent workshop on #GivetoGain through Mentorship, I was struck by a simple but profound idea: Giving is not a subtraction; it is intentional multiplication. The session was led by Cynthia Ward, the mentoring lead at The Humphrey Group. She spoke eloquently about how work and life are not separate spheres; real mentorship supports alignment between our true selves and our professional presence. While the session covered many aspects of leadership, two specific tools resonated with my own focus on intentional growth: the LIFT framework and the art of active listening.

Elevating Through LIFT

Giving feedback is one of the most challenging parts of leadership. We often worry that being “honest” will damage a relationship. Cynthia introduced the LIFT framework as a bridge. It allows us to offer effective, developmental feedback that focuses on lifting the person. It turns a potentially difficult conversation into a meaningful mentorship moment by ensuring the feedback is actionable and rooted in the mentee’s growth.

The Shift to Active Listening

We often confuse “mentoring” with “advocating” or “solving.” However, the workshop highlighted that the strongest connection is built through active listening.

I particularly loved the insight that not everyone wants a solution. In fact, jumping straight to a “fix” can sometimes take the agency away from the person we are trying to help.

Empowering with Their Own Power

By acting as a curious mentor, we shift the dynamic. Instead of saying “Here is what you should do,” we ask questions that allow the mentee to explore their own perspectives. This approach doesn’t just solve a temporary problem; it empowers the mentee.

When we listen with curiosity rather than an urge to reply, we create a space for alignment. As Cynthia noted, mentorship is most powerful when it is relational rather than transactional.

Mentorship, at its best, isn’t about the mentor’s expertise; it’s about the mentee’s discovery. I’m looking forward to applying the LIFT method and more “curious” listening to help multiply the potential of those around me.